When my divorce was finally over, a friend gave me the perfect gift! It’s a framed print of “It’s Never Too Late to Live Happily Ever After!” You can apply this motto to many of life’s situation but in my case, it helped me to realize that only I controlled my destiny. I could live happily ever after – with or without my spouse! And I faced life without my spouse.
You may cringe when you look back at 2012 and possibly remember a very stressful 2011. Thankfully, now it’s 2013! What can you do to create your “Happily Ever After?” What can you control in your world?
Let’s begin by making a list:
- Are you prone to expressing your anger/frustration at your spouse?
- Does your spouse influence your response to situations?
- Have you worked to create an executable, workable plan for your future?
- Are you willing to confront your fears?
- Have you identified the worst that can happen to you?
- Have you stopped playing the “old” tapes?
- Have you created a divorce team who will work with you to present your best case?
Many of my clients and prospective clients call with the latest threat that their soon-to-be ex-spouse hurls at them. It’s a scary time because most of us know little to nothing about divorce. One client’s husband threatened her about the addition to their house and the timing of the divorce. He said the judge would love to hear about the recent completion of their great room. I assured her that the timing of her home improvement project would not be held against her! She was relieved. After all, she said, the addition was not what broke up the marriage.
January is referred to as “divorce month”! If you or anyone you know is facing divorce now or it seems imminent in the near future, don’t delay in creating a plan. One of the most important strategies in divorce is creating a plan and being prepared. Don’t get caught without one.
As a divorce coach, I work with my clients to plan a strategy and path that will work for their family. The future decisions are yours to make. Don’t allow the system to dictate your post-marriage life. I work with you to create and present that strategy to your spouse and attorney.
The first session is complimentary. You have nothing to lose but 30 minutes of
your time – and everything to gain.
When you’re at your worst, I’m at my best!
Sheila Brennan, CPC, M.Ed.